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Comments from Dr. DAMINI Desai  M.D

MOTHERS DAY

KURUSHETRA

  I have undergone comments of  Sagar, youth of kaliyug Dr.Jayesh , Dr. Kalpeshetc. from intellectual wingof society. I donot want to create any contravorsy but factas must beplaced before  viewers and readers. By the way I donot know the writer pwesonally wehether young or aged,suppressed or depressed social worker or acedemician whosoever he may be he deserves complimentsto place such nice views before the readers of his blog

       I am practicing consultant having my consulting clinic assisted by my son and daughter in law both MDsnow governing members of the clinic after I crssed 70.We earn sufficient big ammount.I am not in need of any monetary assistance from my son or his wife all are earning a lot all of us can afford anything at any time.

        But after 70 I feel psychologically depressed I donot know why but it is my expectation my children must spare some  time for me to chit chat I cant expect from his wife but my son must come to me Ihave trained him in education and also in practicing field.He must spare his car for me. Reflection of my children is that I can afford another car also why should I expect from him ?It was my dream at my first delivery  my son may be Doctor surgeon  he may bring one lady doctor as his betterhalf we will stay together they may seek my advice I may guide them.....etc.etc.  but it was only dream. Now after 70 I feel lonelyness. He remains busy with his family and our professionwhich now he feels it is his establishment

       Why such contravorsy ?Is it conflict of ego ? Difference of opinions ? Generation gap ?Instication of my daughterm in law ?May be it is my failure in pouring culture at their childhood stage.Conscience says  make some adjustments and forget what you have done for them and also donot expect anything from themThey are now matured and try to understand your disability after 70.They are running the clinic now officially handoverit to them  they are your heirs  why not from today they are your heir ?Before  the son says it is my prop3ewrty hand it over to him if you feel him competant to run the clinic. I know they wish I should not attend clinic. Yes after 70 I cannot move or walk better, vision is obstructed  ears are at the stage of failure heart is weak joints are weak in short number of disabilities Before thew son dictate not to attend clinic I must leave it but my  motherly ego donot permit me.I expect soft ccorner from my son and his children but actually I am looser I am loosing grand children also.Hidenly  grandchildren arealso treating me adverselyI am wealthy mother but actually  POOR MOTHER. What might be the situation of poor mother.
           Why we expect children ? Just for property ?  They are heirs and they are to get it . Why to create contravorsy ?Property is for them.But what about emotions ans sympathy from their end ?My eyes are draining tears from all ends What was the expectations and what is the achievements ?
        I remember film Awara of my young age at 1952   poor mother dreams  ,my son  will be advocate then barister then magistrate ans then judge  but she died  looking his son a criminal':Baghban is a film of today where there is apicture of parents sserperated parents  by their own children running behind the property I must stop now without bringing the readers i and dragging them into emotions.

                                                   DAMINI
                                            POOR-MOTHER